Be the bridge into womanhood

“The curiosity, intelligence and wonder of the young women grounded me on many levels, reminding me that no matter what age, people are so full of wisdom and a desire for authentic connection. Watching my mentee grow and blossom into a woman who is learning to uncover her own strength has been inspiring.”

Jennifer Aberman


Join Us

Join us in a unique experience of holding girls in love and community as they transition into young womanhood. Witness their courage, passion, and explosive beauty as you support them to discover their individual gifts and shine.

Being a Fire and Flower mentor is a blend of 1-on-1 time with your mentee and community time with all mentors, participants, guest instructors and sometimes families. The 1-on-1 time can be much like a Big Sisters relationship, hanging out and doing free or low-cost activities (we have suggestions!). Community time brings everyone together in facilitated activities, recognizing that we belong to something greater and there is strength, power and synergy when we gather.

*Please note, currently mentors are needed only for the 6-month Rite of Passage Program.

Why is your role so important?

Coming-of-age is the time in youth when focus and awareness starts to shift from ‘home & family’ to the larger community or world. It’s a rich period of self-discovery where we naturally start pushing boundaries to expand our sense of self and belonging in the world. We usually feel, experience and think about A LOT as we’re going through so many changes.

In pre-modern times, as youth moved away from parental dependence, cultures around the world had rites of passage where mentors and elders stepped in to guide this self-discovery towards finding personal gifts and developing confidence. Young people’s natural need for risk and experimentation was met through appropriate challenges aimed to catalyze the geniusness that was ready to emerge. The whole village would honour and celebrate the transition into their next stage in life.

Our modern Western culture sorely lacks such support, and many youth are coming-of-age with mainly the media and their peers for guidance. Girls learn very limiting ideas about beauty, power, body image and sex which can have negative effects on self-esteem and impede growth into their full potential.

Your presence as a mentor is therefore invaluable, and as a Fire & Flower mentor, you will accompany a special individual as she steps into the powerful time of young womanhood.

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How will I be matched with my mentee?

Mentors and mentees meet in Session 1. After some activities to get to know each other, we facilitate a process where the mentees select their top choices of mentors confidentially. We trust that the girls, consciously and/or intuitively, will know who is best suited for them in this journey and will encourage them to follow this knowing. We then look at their selections and make final matches that respect mentees’ choices as best we can.

Time Commitment - May-Oct

  • Mentor training weekend
  • 1-on-1 mentoring: 1.5 hrs weekly May-Aug, then bi-weekly Sept-Oct. Missing a few weeks for work trips or vacation is fine, but consider Skype calls for such occasions.
  • Group sessions: 1 daylong gathering per month on weekends in May, June, Sept, Oct
  • 5-day overnight adventure in early July
  • Mentor check-ins: periodic Zoom calls to address concerns and prepare for program themes
For a more detailed look at dates, program structure and curriculum, please see our sample itinerary.

*Support is available at any time in the program by our lead mentor and support counsellor.

Financial Investment

Our next rite of passage will be in 2020 and the cost will be posted closer to the time. Please sign up for our newsletter to get announcements.

The fee includes mentor training specifically on rites of passage and coming-of-age, guidance and support throughout the 6-months and all expenses for the 5-day trip (food, accomodation, transportation, programming.

Other Requirements

Criminal Record Check (from last year is ok).

Application Process


Please fill out and submit the MENTOR APPLICATION FORM.


We will review your application and contact you for a phone interview.


Successful applicants will need to have a Criminal Record Check completed before Mentor Training Weekend.

Please note that if you are the mother of a current participant, you cannot be a mentor as you have a very different and important role in your daughter’s life as she goes through her rite of passage. Please join us next year.